My son is in the Scouts, and he says she is basically like one of the guys, they kind of don't pay any more attention to her than any other member..he says she is nice, but it's really not a big deal, to them, anyway. She is just like any of the male color guard members to them, and they dont' seem to fraternize much, so I think her boyfriend can rest easy, and I agree that I would be proud if she were my daughter..I really do think she does a nice job, and I really really love the show, but I know that I am biased, so I will understand if you disagree, but I have two daughters, one in guard, and I would be fine if either of them were to play Carmen in this show, and I definitely think she is probably safer with the Scouts than she would be at home..she has 134 big brothers looking out for her, and I really doubt anyone is going to break through that line to mess with her!! hahahaha...